Last month I received a pretty slick-looking direct mail advertisement from a popular men’s magazine (not that magazine. I know what you’re thinking, but those ads don’t make it past the burn pile). The promotion came with 20 pages of content in glorious color as well as text in a classic Helvetica font. The ad was an offer to purchase this “useful” (their word) monthly magazine and enjoy the benefits of the publisher’s book of man-centric wisdom that arrives free with each paid subscription. This is a book chock full of moves every guy should know, apparently. On one page a nude model sits cross-legged framed by a description of how precisely the book of guy goodies will win you this woman through its teaching of sexual techniques perfected by copy writers (most likely sitting jammed into cubicles at publishing houses where, let’s face it, most great bedroom wisdom of the present age comes from). Offers of one slim volume of manly advice on how to win over any woman and spark sexual relationships are hard to ignore. For the married man the lure may be all the more tempting. We can argue ourselves into denial which is remarkably shaped like a naked, cross-legged model. The only hitch in the pitch is that as married men we’ve already got a timeless book of wisdom for men, authored by the creator of the marriage bed. God hasn’t had to edit his copy in a cubicle yet and he gives all the advice in the Bible, his inspired word, that a man could ever want. Here is just a little of what God’s Word offers men without even the requirement of mailing back a subscription card:
” ‘Everything is permissible for me’-but not everything is beneficial. ‘Everything is permissible for me’-but I will not be mastered by anything. ‘Food for the stomach and the stomach for food’-but God will destroy them both. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. -1 Corinthians 6, verses 12-13. Verse 18-20 go on to say “Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins are committed outside of the body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
Sure, it may be as easy to have fantastic sexual conquests as sending back a magazine card. but the price of socially acceptable pornography doesn’t factor in the cost of broken marital relationships, lost sexual intimacy in the marriage bed and shattered trust. I’ll take the Bible’s approach to “man wisdom.”